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30 Years of Abuse: What Weinstein’s Violence Reveals

On October 5, 2017, The New York Times released an article exposing decades of sexual abuse perpetrated by Harvey Weinstein, a well-known film producer and powerful player in Hollywood. After the article’s publication, a stream of new accusations surfaced, and journalists dug deeper, discovering a network of employees and private investigators who gathered information on …

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How you love others can teach you how to love yourself.
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How to Be Single Again: Living and Loving Yourself

by Venn Crawford, Marketing Assistant Last week, we discussed embracing change as a part of recovering from a breakup or divorce. Today I’d like to suggest a change which helped me tremendously – learning how to love yourself. Yes, it sounds vague and empty. People always tell you that “you need to love yourself,” but …

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Being single again can be scary and lonely -- but it can also be a good time to grow.
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How to be Single Again: Letting Change Happen

by Venn Crawford, Marketing Assistant In college, I had a roommate whose world shattered every time she went through a breakup. She always blamed herself, couldn’t cope with being single again, and ended up convinced she was at fault. Most of those breakups were with the same on-again-off-again boyfriend. It wasn’t just the one roommate …

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Call the police if you overhear physical abuse and fear the victim is in danger.
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What if Someone I Know Is Being Abused? – DVAM Part III

Last week we discussed the damaging nature of emotional abuse, as well as the cycle that abuse follows. We emphasized the importance of understanding the cycle of abuse in recognizing and combating domestic violence, but how can we tell when someone is being abused, and what do we do? First off, the individual being abused …

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The cycle of abuse can cause victims of domestic violence to feel confused about whether the abuse is real.
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She Isn’t Always Like This – DVAM Part II

Tuesday’s blog touched on the difficulty that some survivors of domestic violence have when they try to reconcile the good memories of their relationship with their abuse. In trying to reconcile the good with the bad, victims may start to rationalize the abusive behavior and second-guess themselves. This tendency of the victim to downplay their …

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Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse, even though it's harder to see.
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Whether He Hits You or Not – DVAM Part I

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and #maybehedoesnthityou has resurfaced on twitter as victims and activists use the hashtag to speak out about non-physical forms of domestic violence. While physical violence is what most people think of when they hear “domestic violence,” emotional abuse often occurs alongside or before physical violence, and can be just …

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Alimony and Revenge Porn

Dear Readers, Today’s first Ask Carolyn question is a doozie on alimony. The second one starts a discussion on Revenge Porn in North Carolina.   Dear Carolyn, How can someone defend themselves, or best fight against alimony? Long story short, Plaintiff and Defendant were in a marriage way too long.  Defendant stayed because of the children; marriage …

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