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Depressed with a New Baby?

Dear Carolyn, I am a new Father, and I think the mother of our new baby is depressed. I am concerned. She seems exhausted and stressed. I am helping and her mother is helping, but there seems to be a problem.  What should I do? – Stressed with New Baby   Dear Stressed, You need …

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How to Make the Most of Spring

It’s hard not to appreciate spring in North Carolina –  the air is just the right temperature, birds sing good mornings and lullabies, and sunlight feels like warm caresses. Though much of the country is still feeling the cold of winter, my corner of the world is getting ready to bloom. I’ve written a lot …

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Borderline Personality Disorder and Divorce

Today’s Ask Carolyn addresses Borderline Personality Disorder and how it can affect the divorce process. Borderline Personality is a Cluster B personality disorder characterized by unstable behavior, moods, and relationships. BPD is challenging to deal with in relationships, and can become even more difficult during divorce.   Dear Carolyn, My custody file is at least a …

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Throw out your bad habits and build some new, healthy habits.
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5 Healthy Habits You Can Start Right Now

New year, new you, right? At least, we want to think so, but oftentimes our resolutions end up getting abandoned because we tried to start doing too much at once. This is especially true for health-related resolutions. We want to get healthy and think we have to make the big changes all at once, but …

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Showing gratitude regularly leads to increased happiness.
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Why Thanksgiving Should be Year-Round (No, Really)

Every year we gather around a table with our family, friends, and a roasted turkey to celebrate. But what are we celebrating? We’ve all heard some version of a historically inaccurate story about pilgrims and Native Americans, but a lot of times we seem to miss out on the thanks part of Thanksgiving. We may …

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Most opioid addictions begin with prescription pills such as OxyContin or Percocet.
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Congress, Big Pharma, and the Opioid Crisis

The Washington Post and “60 Minutes” released a report this weekend revealing how Congress and pharmaceutical companies deliberately allowed the opioid crisis in America to worsen by passing a law that crippled the Drug Enforcement Administration’s ability to combat the epidemic. The opioid epidemic itself has resulted in over 200,000 deaths in the past two decades, …

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The cycle of abuse can cause victims of domestic violence to feel confused about whether the abuse is real.
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The Cycle of Abuse, or “She Isn’t Always Like This”

Tuesday’s blog touched on the difficulty that some survivors of domestic violence have when they try to reconcile the good memories of their relationship with their abuse. In trying to reconcile the good with the bad, victims may start to rationalize the abusive behavior and second-guess themselves. This tendency of the victim to downplay their …

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Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse, even though it's harder to see.
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Whether He Hits You or Not: The Hidden Nature of Emotional Abuse

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and #maybehedoesnthityou has resurfaced on twitter as victims and activists use the hashtag to speak out about non-physical forms of domestic violence. While physical violence is what most people think of when they hear “domestic violence,” emotional abuse often occurs alongside or before physical violence, and can be just …

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Mental illnesses are misunderstood and often demonized by media.
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The Mental Illness Scapegoat

World Mental Health Day (Oct 10th) comes on the heels of a violent attack in Las Vegas which left 59 dead and over 500 injured. As with other shootings, the public’s response is to point at guns and mental illness – and while it remains divided on the issue of guns, the relative agreement on …

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