Divorce Recovery–this is a topic that is so dear to my heart, and one I have personally experienced. I am empathic to the unsettled souls that walk into my office. My advice–You will be okay after divorce, even if you feel like you won’t be. You could be happier than ever; I am.
One important thing to understand is that divorce, like any loss, is a grieving process. You will go through all the stages–denial, anger, maybe depression, complacency and then back to normalcy. Unfortunately, you and your ex-spouse are usually at different stages; this often makes the process that much harder.
During this recovery process would be an excellent time to seek mental health counseling. Counseling can help ensure you don’t get stuck in any one stage too long. Talking with a counselor can help with things such as finding a new hobby or getting you out of the house. Hobbies are fun and are a great way to keep your mind off your current pain. Plus you now have the time!
Close your eyes. Think about it for a minute. What have you always wanted to do but didn’t make the time for? What is something that was on your college bucket list?
Travel, learn a new language, read a book, even enjoy your own company. Shopping is great therapy too, within reason! Just don’t get stuck. LIVE, LEARN and BREATHE. You will get through this!
Divorce Recovery Tips
*Avoid the most common mistake of jumping into a new relationship too quickly. Jumping off the cliff almost never works out in your favor. Ask, Does your fragile heart need another potential for a roller coaster right now?
*Learn to exercise self-control. Divorces are emotional, and sometimes a person going through a divorce can get out of touch with self-control.
*Find JOY! What is “joy” to you? Write down ten things that give you “joy” and do some of them!