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My “husband” lied about being divorced! What do I do?

Dear Carolyn, Hello. Can you help me? I am a 51-year-old woman who got into a wedded relationship (though celibate and platonic) with this 73-year-old man who needed my financial help with his social security. It turns out he never divorced his previous wife nor did she divorce him. Mine with him, I’ve been told, …

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Rent, Real Estate, and Alimony

Today’s Ask Carolyn addresses two questions about money and real estate. Our first reader asks if his daughter’s rent can be awarded to her as part of her alimony, as she is financially unable to move back out after divorce. Our second reader wants to know if he’s required to hire a real estate appraiser …

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Confronting Child Sexual Abuse

In honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month, today I’m posting an excerpt from Ask Carolyn 2 that addresses one survivor’s struggle with the secrecy of childhood sexual abuse and her search for closure.   Dear Carolyn, I am now 32, and my sister is 35. We were both molested by our stepfather. Our mother “knew,” …

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Do People My Age Really Divorce?

Dear Carolyn, I am sixty-nine.  I have been in a fifty-year marriage.  I sure would like to be out of the marriage, but I fear I am too old.  I would like my retirement to be stress-free and with someone else. Do people my age really divorce? – Old, but Fiesty   Dear Old, but …

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Summons for Jury Duty

Dear Carolyn, I got this paper in the mail called Summons.  It is for jury service.  I just got a new job, and I’m afraid my employer will fire me.  How do I get out of this jury service? – Don’t want to be a juror   Dear “Don’t Want to Be a Juror,” This …

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Depressed with a New Baby?

Dear Carolyn, I am a new Father, and I think the mother of our new baby is depressed. I am concerned. She seems exhausted and stressed. I am helping and her mother is helping, but there seems to be a problem.  What should I do? – Stressed with New Baby   Dear Stressed, You need …

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Borderline Personality Disorder and Divorce

Today’s Ask Carolyn addresses Borderline Personality Disorder and how it can affect the divorce process. Borderline Personality is a Cluster B personality disorder characterized by unstable behavior, moods, and relationships. BPD is challenging to deal with in relationships, and can become even more difficult during divorce.   Dear Carolyn, My custody file is at least a …

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On Ungrateful Relatives

Dear Carolyn, I am an aunt with two adult nephews and one adult niece.  I have no children of my own.  I have been very faithful, I feel, to lavishing these ingrates with gifts and attention on holidays, at weddings, birthdays, baby showers and generally.  There is never a thank-you note from them, much less …

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What to Do When You Witness Domestic Violence

Dear Carolyn, I was recently at the US Post Office on Murrow Boulevard. I was in line. There was a couple in line in front of me, and the man was hitting and pushing the woman and then laughing about it. She was obviously hurt and humiliated, but seemed unable to do anything about it. …

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